Returning To S*x Postpartum

Bringing a new baby into the world is a joyous occasion, but it can also bring significant changes to your life and your relationship with your partner. One such change is the impact it can have on your sex life. After giving birth, you will experience physical and emotional changes that can make returning to sex feel daunting. However, with a little patience and communication, you can safely and comfortably resume sexual activity after having a baby.

WHEN CAN YOU RESUME SEXUAL ACTIVITY AFTER HAVING A BABY?

The timing of when you can resume sexual activity after having a baby varies from person to person and depends on several factors, including the type of delivery, the extent of any tearing or episiotomy, and your own comfort level. Generally, most healthcare providers recommend waiting at least six weeks after delivery to resume sexual activity to allow your body to heal fully.

However, this timeframe is not a hard and fast rule. Your body has just done something amazing, and it needs time to heal. It's essential to listen to your body and take things at your own pace. If you experienced a complicated delivery or have ongoing physical discomfort, you may need to wait longer before attempting sex, there’s absolutely no rush!

Feeling emotionally ready is equally important. New parenthood comes with a whirlwind of emotions, and it's perfectly normal if sex isn't a priority right away. Be kind to yourself and communicate openly with your partner about how you're feeling.

TIPS FOR RETURNING TO SEX AFTER HAVING A BABY

TAKE IT SLOW

It's normal to feel nervous or apprehensive about resuming sexual activity after having a baby, but rushing into things can lead to discomfort or pain. Take your time and start slowly, focusing on intimacy and connection before attempting penetration.

COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR PARTNER

Open and honest communication with your partner is essential when returning to sex after having a baby. Talk about your fears, concerns, and desires, and make sure you're on the same page about your expectations and boundaries.

USE LUBRICATION

During breastfeeding, the hormonal changes can lead to a decrease in vaginal lubrication, making penetration uncomfortable. Using a water-based lubricant can help reduce discomfort and make sex more enjoyable.

EXPERIMENT WITH DIFFERENT POSITIONS

Your body may feel different after having a baby, so you may need to experiment with different positions to find what feels comfortable and enjoyable. Try positions that take pressure off your perineum or allow you to control the depth and speed of penetration.

PRACTICE PELVIC FLOOR EXERCISES

Pelvic floor exercises, also known as Kegels, can help strengthen the muscles that support your pelvic organs and improve bladder and bowel control. Practicing these exercises regularly can also improve vaginal tone and increase sexual sensation.

BE PATIENT WITH YOURSELF

Returning to sex after having a baby is a process that takes time and patience. Don't feel pressured to resume sexual activity before you're ready, and remember that it's normal to experience discomfort or a decrease in libido. Be kind to yourself, and don't hesitate to speak to your healthcare provider if you have concerns.

HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR

Things might be a bit awkward or clumsy at first, and that's perfectly okay! Laughing together can help ease tension and make the experience more enjoyable. Don't be afraid to giggle if something doesn't go as planned.

THE BOTTOM LINE

Returning to sex after having a baby is a journey, not a race. It's important to take things at your own pace and communicate with your partner. With patience, understanding, and some experimentation, you can safely and comfortably resume sexual activity and enjoy the physical and emotional benefits it brings to your relationship.

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XOXO,

JAQUELINE, OWNER, DOULA & SLEEP CONSULTANT